How can an abused woman escape domestic violence?

This article provides a way for an abused woman to escape her abusive ex within a short period of time. Specific recommendations are provided for the initial escape and references and resource links are contained  in the article.

Help hot lines and domestic violence shelters

Those who operate these domestic violence facilities are to be commended for their efforts. And to be fair, these companies provide their share of help to abused women. In fact, the hot line may have provided substantial supportive counseling prior to the time the abused woman is ready and willing to end the domestic violence against her by making a clean getaway from her abusive husband or ex boyfriend.  Once this decision is made by the battered woman, it is time to establish a defensive plan-an immediate, emergency plan to stop stalking efforts of her abusive ex who will surely come looking for her once he discovers she has left the nest.

Stopping Stalking

Nipping the stalking problem in the bud is the best strategic plan If it can be accomplished. This means the stalking victim should, if possible, learn how to lose her stalker ex immediately upon leaving the home where the domestic violence took place.

Create a new identity and become a roommate

Begin the escape plan by becoming known by a pen name or alternate name in order to break the paper trail to the real you. How will your stalking ex pick up the trail on Mary Sue Davidson when she is now known as Kathy Washington in her new apartment which she shares with a roommate who has all house utilities in her name?

For more information, please review this article on harassment stalking:

Privacy living tactics

Once an escape has been made, the staking victim and former abused woman will need to adopt high-level privacy living principles in order to establish bank secrecy, ensure home privacy, develop workplace anonymity, and learn to travel secretly.

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IF you question whether you should take the crime of stalking or the crime of domestic violence seriously, please be advised that stalkers are very persistent in some cases and have been known to stalk their victims from one year to as long as forty years.  Consider this piece of stalking information and these stalking statistics taken as direct quotes from the website below:

“Stalking According to the Stalking Resource Center:

  • 1,006,970 women and 370,990 men are stalked annually in the United States.
  • 1 in 12 women and 1 in 45 men will be stalked in their lifetime.
  • 77% of female and 64% of male victims know their stalker.
  • 87% of stalkers are men.
  • 59% of female victims and 30% of male victims are stalked by an intimate partner.
  • 81% of women stalked by a current or former intimate partner are also physically assaulted by that partner.
  • 31% of women stalked by a current or former intimate partner are also sexually assaulted by that partner.
  • The average duration of stalking is 1.8 years.
  • If stalking involves intimate partners, the average duration of stalking increases to 2.2 years.
  • 61% of stalkers made unwanted phone calls; 33% sent or left unwanted letters or items; 29% vandalized property; and 9% killed or threatened to kill a family pet.
  • 28% of female victims and 10% of male victims obtained a protective order. 69% of female victims and 81% of male victims had the protection order violated.

Stalking Resource Ctr., The Nat’l Ctr. for Victims of Crime, Stalking Fact Sheet, (citing Patricia Tjaden & Nancy Thoennes, U.S. Dep’t of Justice, NCJ 169592, Stalking in America: Findings from the National Violence Against Women Survey (1998)”


Grant Hall

Privacy protection will help battered women with stalking ex

Those who need help with a stalking ex risk becoming a battered woman statistic. Privacy protection basic measures concerning finances are explained in this article and will assist the stalking victim in making personal adjustment decisions.

Breaking up is hard to do

If you are a battered woman, it is emotionally difficult to break away from the abusive husband or ex boyfriend who may be stalking you. Once you have made the decision to break up, financial privacy will become a chief concern as money secrets are essential for eliminating control measures imposed upon you by a controlling, stalking ex.

How to obtain bank secrecy

Banking privacy is best obtained through the use of check cashing stores and an anonymous safe deposit box that your stalking ex cannot access under any circumstances. Bite the bullet and pay the 1.9% to 2.9% principal amounts charged by check cashing services in order to obtain financial privacy and take immediate possession of cash derived from salary, wages, commissions, or self employment draws.

Help for battered women

Support groups and/or therapists may provide support for damages caused by an abusive ex husband or ex boyfriend. Seek professionals for emotional support as an adjunct to your financial privacy adjustment plan.

Competent professionals and law enforcement may provide assistance to battered women who are abused by a stalker ex.

Helping battered women is a goal of this column and the associated website. Free advice is available through the website in the form of solutions to stop stalking, and this information series can be obtained privately through e-mail.

Home privacy for the stalking victim

This article will provide  stalking victims with a certain method of preventing a home privacy invasion by a stalker.

Home privacy for the stalking victim

Are you a battered wife or a battered woman? Have you been abused by an ex-husband who has become a dangerous stalker?

If you want to break the paper trail and defeat that troublesome, persistent, ex-husband or ex-boyfriend, you will need to buy your house in the name of another entity.

Use a trust to buy your home. It is the most private of all entities. The trust should have no ties to you. This means another person, perhaps a co-trustee or an administrative trustee will have to do your bidding initially as you buy the home in the county where the property is located. This will be necessary to ensure you as an individual have no links to the property when your stalker searches data bases.

When a trust owned home has no links to the trustee (stalking victim) who manages the trust there is no way to find that person through normal computer data base searches.

Mortgages and borrowing

A traditional mortgage will have your name on it and the lender will report your payments monthly to the major credit bureaus. And since you are being stalked and your ex or other dangerous stalker will probably check these files, having a mortgage is a bad idea if you want to avoid future harassment stalking.

It is possible to borrow funds for a home while eliminating the paper trail to you when you use money from entities under your control or arrange  the source of borrowed funds through private lenders while using front entities’ assets to secure the home.

The key for a stalking victim to remember is that in order to stop stalking, there can be no record of home ownership tied to the stalking victim’s name.

Grant Hall